1. Don't clip your child's wings.
Your toddler's mission in life is to gain independence. So when he/she's developmentally capable of putting his/her toys away, clearing his/her plate from the table, and dressing themselves, let them. Giving children responsibilty is good for their self- esteem.
2. Don't try to fix everything.
Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child's minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.
3. Remember that discipline is not punishment.
Enforcing limits is really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them to become competent, caring, and in control.
4. Pick your battles.
Kids can't absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter -- that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.
5. Play with your children.
Let them choose the activity, and don't worry about rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. That's the name of the game.
6. Read books together every day.
Get started when he's a newborn; babies love listening to the sound of their parents' voices. Cuddling up with your child and a book is a great bonding experience that will set him up for a lifetime of reading.
7. Schedule daily special time.
Let your child choose an activity where you hang out together for 10 or 15 minutes with no interruptions. There's no better way for you to show your love.
8. Encourage daddy time.
The greatest untapped resource available for improving the lives of our children is time with Dad -- early and often. Kids with engaged fathers do better in school, problem-solve more successfully, and generally cope better with whatever life throws at them.
9. Make warm memories.
Your children will probably not remember anything that you say to them, but they will recall the family rituals -- like bedtimes and game night -- that you do together.